Hindi pagmamahal at katalinuhan ang gusto natin, kung di Kasiguraduhan!

Madalas nating mabigyan ng ibang context ang akala nating gusto natin para sa ating sarili. Tulad ng halimbawang sa pagreview sa test natin sa eskwelahan. Kaya tayo nag rereview para makapasa hindi para madagdagan ang ating kaalaman. Kasi kapag nakapasa daw tayo at makagraduate na may mataas ang antas doon daw magmumula ang pagkakaroon ng maganda at mas siguradong kinabukasan. Minsan ang mga tao nagpapasakal kahit mali ang rason ng pagiisang dibdib; para makasigurado lang na hindi sya magisa sa pagtanda nya o kung ano pang kanya-kanyang personal na mga rason maliban sa authentic na pagmamahalan. Pati sa pagdasal, isa sa malaking rason kaya natin ginagawa ito para sa kasiguraduhan na makuha natin ang gusto nating makamit, hindi dahil sa walang bahid ng anumang pansariling kagustuhan sa pagmahal at pagpuri sa Dyos. Tapos kapag hindi natin nakamtan ang inaasam tatawagin nating "unanswered prayers". Sa totoo lang para sa akin lahat ng dasal sinasagot nya kaya lang ayaw nating tanggapin kapag ang sagot nya hindi o mag-antay ka muna. Yun na yung sagot nya. Ayaw lang natin sumunod sa kung anong gusto nya para sa atin.

Ganon pa man, siguro talagang mananaig pa rin ang pagkamaako (ego) na ugali natin dahil sa rason na walang kasiguraduhan ang buhay. Hindi natin ma-control ang lahat patungo sa gusto natin. Kaya rin siguro ang karamihan sa atin (pati ako) takot sa mga changes o pagbabago. Nagkakaroon kasi tayo ng kakayahan na bihirang makuha ng nakakarami sa kamay ng katiyakan. Pero sa akin kahit ang mga mayayaman wala pa ring seguridad sa ano mang kapahamakan. Ang isang matapang at malakas na sundalo wala ring katiyakang matitira syang nakatayo pagkatapos ng isang malaking labanan o gera. Kahit ang mga matatalino maari pa ring magkamali sa huli. Hindi mo pwedeng malaman lahat ng bagay sa buhay. May mga  pagkakataon nga na alam na nating mali, pero nakukuha pa rin nating gawin.

Dapat nga ba tayong mamuhunan sa paraan ng sigurado? Meron nga bang kasiguraduhan? Siguro nakasalalay lahat ng mangyayari sa magiging reaction natin sa bawat bahagi ng sitwasyon na ating kinalalagyan. Depende kung ano ang mood natin sa eksaktong oras na yun. Lahat ng desisyon natin ay gumagawa ng momentum, maaring masama o maaring mabuti. Ang paraan ng mapagkumbabang tao ang sumagi sa akin dahil ang atensyon hindi nakatutok sa sarili, kung hindi sa kung ano ang ipagkakaloob. Hindi ibig sabihing hindi na tayo kikilos at kung ano nalang ang ibigay sa atin. Gawin ang makakaya, kung anong marating magpasalamat pa rin. Sa pagkapit natin sa kasiguraduhan na akala natin ay atin, palaging isipin na may posibilidad pa rin na mabigo tayo sa oras na hindi tumugma ang katiyakang inaasahan.

Maari ngang walang kasiguraduhan sa buhay pero kung pagsusumikapan natin na makamit ang magmahal ng tapat at ang tapat na kagustuhang madagdagan ang kaalaman upang mas lumawak pa. Doon siguro natin makakatagpo ang kasiguraduhan na ating hinahanap.

Dark Knight R.F.

One step at a time

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The more we try to make things perfect the more we become judgmental to our self and to others, we look at the negative instead of the things that are working right.

The more we find the truest truth the more we realize how we easily lie on almost everything we think and do.

The more we seek righteousness the more we realize how vulnerable we are to the call of the flesh.

The more we pursue happiness for ourselves the more it avoids us and sometimes can turn into sorrow.

The more we search for strength, the more we find our self to be weak and fearful.

The more we chase wisdom and intelligence, the more we understand how little we know.

The more we long for a romantic love the more it could end up to be a heartache or a tragedy.

The more we desire for beauty; the more we tend to look for the imperfections.

The higher we climb the ladder of success, the demands of time and energy cause us to be alone, sad and tired.

I see people who are in search of fame and when they become, they hide themselves from the public and have the most insecurity and severe depression.

The more we want to be full the more we see emptiness. 

The more we aim high the faster we head down. 

The more we make effort to organize things the more things are rearranged to how it should be.

The more we do our best to be complete the more we see what is missing.

The more we work on our satisfaction the more we say “it’s not enough.”

The harder we strive for silence, sometimes the more we are delivered to chaotic circumstances.

The more we like to forgive the more we remember the offense.

Even when we are thinking of the future it springs our mind back to the past, we bounce from the past and the future we forget the now.

The more we ask, the more we come up for more questions.

Everything we seek is fine it is never going to end. It is our high expectations that make us inadequate.

Maybe it's right to have some expectations; with an understanding that contentment and appreciation with what we have received is our resting place. We cannot stop from growing.

Working a little bit at a time to our goals will take us more to our expansion. We cannot reach perfect accomplishments anyway by rushing in to it.

No point to be too greedy of anything or everything. It's all temporary anyway. Having less at the moment should never reduce our whole being. It is how we poorly react to others and to our life that is degrading.

May we all be guided to a clear and peaceful pace. Take one step at a time.

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These are the things I am thankful for

I am thankful for this day Lord, my birthday.
for all the daily provisions and protection you have blessed me with.
for giving me wealth of perfect health of mind and body.
for letting me have great parents who have always been there for their children.
for a supportive and loving family, relatives and friends.
for all the material necessities that I need each day.
for being able to recognize the other dreams you have placed in me.
for your grace and mercy even in the times when I am weak. 
for giving me the courage to press on.
for making me acknowledge the lessons I have to learn.
for the memories of all the ones who are not with us anymore.
for all the people who have respected, inspired and helped me.
for making me capable to encourage or help people who are in need even in small ways. 
for making me able to express myself through writing.
for the air that I breathe.
for my everyday food.
for my clothes.
for a peaceful good night sleep last night.
And I am thankful God for letting me experience your greatest expression of your love for me which is my life. :)

Dark Knight R.F.

Foresight or Hindsight?

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I sometimes ponder about the wonders and the importance of foresight and hindsight. Effective tools we can use in life. I know to myself at some point I have done and applied these two. How I always remind myself the significance of having these two approaches that I could similarly learn from. Of course I would rather have foresight than hindsight because it is much more favorable to my advantage. Lesser hassle and much more closer to the goal. Yet still my experience of both are equally the same. Which I find intriguingly funny to myself. Because the more hindsight's I have been to, the more I should be avoiding it and should lean more towards foresight.


Let's take a look at Hindsight first. This is something that we realized and learned after getting over a problem or a situation, whether we have solved it or not. Most often this requires painful experiences because of our lack of conviction in planning ahead before diving into something that we really want. Probably too much excitement or that strong eagerness, that need not any further digging. I've got to have this one right now! All of the attention is poured in the exhilaration of acquiring and ignoring the consequences. We thought we have planned it all out as simple and as effective in our mind. The ego says: I got this one right, put  your feet up I will take care of it. Until the whole thing hits us. Too late to react now, what's done is done. That's it. This is not a put down on the mistakes we have done on our past at all. We all can learn from it. I have had many of those and frankly speaking all of it took me to where I am now, attitude and character wise. I am not saying it's all flawless, all I can say is that I am more careful now than I used to be. The positive effects are the lessons I have learned from it, only in a much harder way. All the hassles and frustrations I have to go through, in a way, gave me a chance to see the things I should have anticipated before it all happened. I pick myself up, dust myself off and move along. That's the best thing that I can do about it and that's all I can ever do about it. You cannot be too cautious all the time.


Then there is Foresight. This one brings more advantage than the previous, in my own estimate. Having this approach as my priority in whatever I would be aspiring for is the most wise and reliable method for me. The paradox is that in order to have a greater conviction of foresight you should have a lot of experience with hind-sights. It is more on planning ahead, more strategic methodology. Looking at the problems that could eventually get in the way.  Not focusing on what could go wrong but seeing ways to unravel it in case it happens. Solution oriented not fault finding, being more mindful of possible consequences. Some people think it is a method of problem forecasting, but really it is just thinking of proactive ways if things do not go the way we want them to be. Because bad things happens. Which I think is more fair to consider. You cannot be too careless or reckless also.


Having foresight does not mean that you have to rely on a crystal ball, requiring us to dial 1-800-Psychic or whatever. We can get it from our gut feeling or intuition. Our inner guide is our intuition. Little by little I am slowly learning to listen to it. Though there are times I am still struggling in discerning whether it's coming from fear or intuition. Hopefully practice will help me progress in using it more often. Combination of strategy and gut feeling are great tools for a more successful foresight.


So hopefully as I mature I will have more fore-sights than hind-sights. Of course I would not mind having hind-sights every now and then. It's part of life's contrast. Which one do you think is more helpful to you between the two? :)


Dark Knight (R.F.)

My Affirmations for this day.

I am fully equipped with wisdom, talents and discernment that I need to make this day better than yesterday.
I give value to pure and affirmative thoughts, for it will support me in making myself to be a better person today.
Instead of feeling bad about the things I want to happen that is not happening, I will turn my attention in appreciating the things that favors me now that I usually forget about.
My decisions brings me to carry good feeling from being optimistic than the opposite.
The truth that I am usually looking for are not always located outside of me, God had anchored it in my heart and mind, I just have to look within more frequently.
I am going to be humble in accepting to change my unhelpful ways of thinking and behaviors towards myself and others.
I have lost my interest with conflicts may it be internal or external.
From now on I will work on making a regular habit of starting and ending my day with Appreciating God for my life.

Dark Knight (R.F.)

Final Analysis by Mother Teresa

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People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If your are kind,
people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful,
you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank,
people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building,
someone could destroy overnight.
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today,
people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have,
and it may never be enough;
Give the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis
it is between you and God;
it was never between you and them anyway.

Should I be afraid to be alone?

Most of us fear to be alone.  Postponing my thoughts about it is my way of straying away from it. I will deal with it later when I get there and if I really can't find anyone at that time. I still have time I guess,(with God's permission) of course plus enough effort on my part. There are still unlimited possibilities out there. My ever useful attitude for myself. 

There are lots of things to happen in a day, a week, a month, in three months, etc. What makes me sad sometimes is my nature of being greedy of happiness. We cannot inhale all the air we need in our lifetime in one sniffing. I always think about that. Being selfish in thinking that life is limited so you have to get it right now or else someone is going to have it before you do. My restricted thinking that there is no other time, but now.  When I am not greedy about happiness I am more in tuned that I can always find it in other ways or bump into it with infinite likelihood. It seems to me that going with the flow is letting God manage your life. Hurrying things along is letting your Ego manage you. I guess, it is a matter of knowing the constraints of our beliefs. "There's not enough" versus "there are limitless supply". There are over seven billion plus or more people in the planet, relax. 

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When you get to be happy, it won't last a long time anyway. Dreams can also turn into a nightmare. It is how we perceive our experience. I just have to free my mind from freaking out too much. Besides there is no assurance that if you are in a relationship you will be secure and happy. You think you are equipped when you get to be in it? I have noticed, that in a relationship there is a chance of insecurity because of the risk to change and to commit. Think of break-ups and divorces that are happening around. Not to mention our own issues that we are having a hard time in dealing with privately plus the other person's issues. That alone is complicated already. 

Whether we are alone or with someone else we are still the one to make and be responsible for our own happiness. Because I noticed that if I give others the responsibility of it I might end up being disappointed. What is perfect for you might not be perfect for me. We all have our own interpretations of events and conditions that occurs in our life. 

We might find someone having a boring life but that person might be having the time of his/her life. That is why I find it so hard to define the perfect way to exist. There is no one sure way of approach in life. Which is a good thing for me because there are variations in how we can live our life. Not everyone likes asparagus, SUV, iphone, twitter, etc. There is freedom everywhere no restrictions. As long as we don't  abuse it. Could it be that we are being bound by conformity?

With that said, I should not be afraid of being alone because there are a lot of things that can happen from this day on to my (God-willing) later years. What is important for me is how I should be thankful for my life and for whatever I have right at this moment. We can make our plans but it is still up to God if he will allow it. My part is to keep my hopes up and be appreciative of what are working right. Life is continuously flowing and will not freeze frame, it is coming from an immeasurable, unlimited, all-powerful  Creator. Now think about the endless possibilities. :)

Dark Knight (R.F.)